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A friend (59) reports that she has been suffering from chronic hoarseness and daily nightly sore throats for several years.
Countless visits to ENT doctors have produced absolutely nothing. A gastroscopy due to suspected reflux was also unsuccessful.
The cervical spine, fascia etc. were treated without any improvement. Often you soon end up in the “psycho corner”.
Overall, the symptoms were a constant impairment of her joy of speech and her need to communicate.

The research revealed:
She had been living with the love of her life, her husband, with whom she had raised two wonderful children, for thirty years.
But - although they still loved each other dearly - they were constantly arguing about little things. Why was that?
Well, the woman was in the middle of a change. One day, in Björn's book “The psychological causes of illness”, she read about the relationship between the different hormone levels in men and women. While oestrogen levels drop in women, testosterone levels in men usually only drop years later. A very important tip!

She spoke to her “beloved husband” (67) about this, who was open to the idea and immediately had a blood test carried out.
Laboratory findings: testosterone as in a 35-year-old! Still no decline at all.
The wife's blood test showed that she had virtually no oestrogen left!
So now her husband no longer had the female wife he had married, but a man in the apartment. That meant in everyday life:
Competitive thinking, turf wars, territorial anger, territorial anxiety, bossiness, assertiveness (all “male”). Even consciously being alone was not enough. Pure permanent tension!

During these years, many women and men go to the doctor, who prescribes oestrogen for the woman to make her feminine again and testosterone for the man to make him masculine again.
But is this what divine creation intended? No, because everything has a purpose and an order.

In the end, the two lovers came up with an original, clever solution:
To live separately so that each could live his or her whole life - without suppressing their own nature and the natural rage this causes!
The relieving insight: their constant tensions were largely simply hormonal! Hormones control us humans, of course. And this is no personal fault.
Just the firm decision to organize it this way led to a very rapid change in symptoms: less to no more sore throats at night and a better voice during the day.
Even before the move, the atmosphere became less tense.

They could also think of couples among their friends and relatives who suffered in the same way, or who had been separated at this stage of their lives. In the couples who stayed together, at least one of them, usually the woman, became ill or depressed or fell into some kind of addiction.

In the meantime, they both found themselves confirmed by articles on the Internet about “living separately in old age”: happy, appreciative couples don't necessarily have to live together. What a brave adventure, and sometimes a question of money, of course.
But - where there's a will, there's a way. In love.
If the man later (finally) has less testosterone and can now let his wife take the lead without effort and with pleasure, living together could work again ...

Note from Björn Eybl
Healing through clarity - As Hellinger said so beautifully: “Acknowledge what is.”
In this case: solution by recognizing the biological facts.
From my book:
From our point of view, the change is particularly significant with regard to changes in the brain: right-handed women normally “work” with their left (female) brain hemisphere. In the oestrogen-testosterone balance, a fall in oestrogen levels is synonymous with an increase in testosterone levels. > “Masculinization” of the woman by switching to the right (male) brain hemisphere > specifically female conflicts become less important because the woman now feels like a “man”. ... Just as pubescents enter new territory with the “shooting in” of the sex hormones, women also enter new territory in the transition. Mood swings, depression, sleep disorders due to the change of brain hemispheres. An increase in pulmonary embolisms, heart attacks or strokes due to the resolution of conflicts that have been active for years.
The change is also problematic for the partner, who suddenly has to deal with a “man”. At least no longer with the “woman of the past”.
Men enter the transition later than women (drop in testosterone > feminization). This time, until the man has also “changed”, is particularly critical for the partnership (divorces).